speakers corner -latest dates

I will sadly be unable to speak at the corner until the end of June.
Here are my intended appearance dates and times...

June 24th 11 am - 1 pm
July 1st 11 am - 1 pm
July 8th 12 pm - 8 pm
July 15th 12 pm - 8 pm
July 22nd ` 12 pm - 8 pm

All sunject to weather and wife !!

Hoffman Quadrinity Process (HQP)

For years now, I have had an ongoing joke with a friend – Andrew Rose. Whenever we were feeling down, we suggested to the other that he should do the HQP and that this would sort out all our problems. The name of the course sounded so daft that we were sure it was the panacea.

Somehow, synchronicity finally led me to signing up for the course. In all the courses I have done on this ‘spiritual journey’ over the past 9 years, none have really delved deeply into childhood wounds and their lasting effect.

Recently, I have noticed how easily I can be triggered back into my childhood especially around my kids. They know how to push all my buttons and before I know it, I have gone to their level and am being aggressive and childish. I also noticed this regression in other parts of my life, especially around my parents. And I was aware that I could not shake off beliefs that were set in place when I was very young, beliefs that I knew were very destructive in my life.

So I found the one week in the year that was free and enrolled myself in this 8 day residential course.

There was no contact with the outside world which allowed us to remain in the process without being distracted by al the things we use to do just that.

It was a jam packed week full of the most unusual and powerful experiences which are difficult to describe (although they keep no secrets – you can get books on what happens)

To keep things brief, I would like to share the benefits I have experienced since the course.

Dad

I had a conversation with my father which was like no other for a long time. It wasn’t that he had changed but my perception of him had. I allowed him to be himself and accepted it and for the first time in a long time, I didn’t feel irritated when he was ‘doing his thing’ I feel that I can finally love him for who he is and give up trying to change him. Its not like this idea is new to me, but up until now, despite all the courses and therapy, I have been unable to make this a reality in my life. The depth of what we did in the HQP has finally led me to move the idea from my head to my heart.

Kids

I have found myself being much calmer around the kids. They continue to do their stuff and yet I find myself being far less triggered and angry and far less aggressive with them. Its not easy with them by any means (even though on the whole they are fabulous children and are relatively easy and well behaved) but I have hope that we can find new ways of being with each other.

General state of peace

The person who recommended the course to me experienced a massive high for several months after doing the course. That didn’t happen to me and in a way I am envious. But each person gets what they need. And I am very grateful for the many things I have received. Perhaps the biggest gift I have received is a significant drop in tension and anxiety I have felt for many years on a daily basis. Since the course, I have felt an underlying peace even in the face of the normal adversity I face in life. I have been able to be there for Michelle my wife completely on the rare occasions where she needs my emotional support. I have managed to be much more ‘present’ in my life. When I take the kids to the park, I no longer find myself obsessing about what I should/could be doing but instead I am fully with them.